Transform his wife
Throughout the whole process of deciding to move and actually moving, there were several changes or course corrections. It started off as possibly building a new home, then went to buying an older home and remodeling, then renting and back to remodeling. As a planner you can imagine how all this change really cramped my style.
Needless to say I had many moments of irritation and most of them were directed to Tracy because it was his idea to move in the first place. Well not really, it was God’s idea and Tracy was a much more willing participant that I was. As I mentioned in previous posts, God was directing me to specific bible studies throughout this process.
In the “Unglued” devotional by Lysa Terkeurst, a comment caught my attention and I knew that it was something God wanted me to hear and apply. “I need to be a wife daring enough to ask God to reveal to me how to love my husband and I need to ask God where I am going wrong, where I’m being selfish and where I need work.”
The study asked a few questions:
- Is this an irritation or an issue – If it’s just an irritation then maybe I need to practice being more flexible, patient or willing to extend grace
- Am I praying “about” my husband or “for” my husband – praying about him is just ranting; praying for him means digging into God’s word and praying scriptures specific to his struggles.
That’s powerful! When we pray the Word of God, we pray the Will of God!
3. Where is my focus?
I’ll never be able to control how another person acts or reacts, but I can control how I act and react. My focus shouldn’t be on having the right partner; my focus should be on being the right partner.
I love that the final home decision was to remodel because it’s always been a desire of Tracy’s to flip homes and it’s because he gets to transform something. He told me he gets such an amazing feeling when he sees the final project all renewed. I think that God must feel the same way. He sees me and He has a remodeling plan for my life and the end project will be just as He imagined.
To begin this remodeling God needed me to know who was on the team of builders. God is the architect, this is His plan. Tracy is His skilled workman, applying his God given talents to the task and I am his helpmate. God intends for us to work together, peacefully, lovingly and all with the intent of bringing us closer together. We are partners.
Part of God’s plan is to change me through this. Sometimes that is going to hurt my pride, my will or even my heart, but remodeling means it’s worth every effort to make it happen. I looked up words that are related to remodeling and some of them were; recreate, rejuvenate, recondition and restore. That means that God thinks it’s worth it to work with me in making all of those happen. It’s a process, but He thinks I’m worth it.
My prayer
Micah 7:7 – But as for me, I will look to the Lord;
I will wait for the God of my salvation; my God will hear me
Father, Thank you for my husband. That he loves me and wants to provide for me. Help us to be godly partners, to love each other, to work together and to walk in your plan for our lives. You brought us together Lord and I pray our marriage honors You. Refine me Lord and recreate me to be a woman who seeks You first and is more concerned about the needs of others above my own. You will take care of the details, this is your plan. Amen
Where does my help come from?
Genesis 2:18
“Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone.
I will make a helper who is just right for him.”
Philippians 2: 3-4
“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others
above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.”